A conversation on sexual energy

in reflection on my last writing

I am of the mind, at this moment, that those I meet who are not well integrated. Who struggle with their 'shadows' or internalized messages of worthlessness or shame have subjected their sexuality to a place of silence and shame. A perverting of what is a simple extension of energy and creativity and deep connection.

I believe an honest discussion of this is important for one to feel fully integrated within oneself. There is such a perversion of this energy that shows up differently for different people, but does great harm.

A man who reaches out to many women at once, even while in relationship to another, seemingly looking for deep intimacy, might be playing something else out.

I see many who are deeply hurt whose wounds keep them from expressing their feelings clearly or at all. Who sometimes hide and seem brittle.

I ponder sexual energy, the healing of and am listening to those who do beautiful work in this area.

I do not believe that expressing one's sexual energy should be relegated to the shadows. And this can mean many different things. But it does not involve dishonesty or manipulation.

I do believe it is a beautiful healing energy, something I came to experience only once I was outside the confines of a long relationship. And had the fortune of solitude and learning to relate to just myself.

If we grew up learning about our bodies, physical, emotional, sexual, in a whole and healthy way. We could then come into relationship from a place of health and wholeness.

If we learned to listen to our 'shadows', brought them into the light. Did the work of understanding and integrating them. And did not vilify them and ourselves by extension. Did the work of being kind and loving to ourselves. Imagine the healing we would witness. Imagine how our hearts could connect with anyone who crossed our path.

I am stubbornly hopeful.